Normally I struggle when it comes to Valentine’s Day content, but this year I have a whole bunch of pent-up dating energy that I’m not really putting anywhere so roll up your sleeves because I reckon I’ve got a banger. Here are 12 cute and sexy date ideas for Valentine’s Day, complete with links to places you can buy stuff if you’re in the mood to get presents for your partners and want to support this site by buying from the people who help keep it alive.
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Location kissing
Earlier this week I came up with an outrageously cute date idea that would appeal to transport nerds like myself: take me to the London Transport Museum and see how many different vintage tube carriages/buses you can kiss me on. Nothing too smoochy – don’t upset the public. But I think it’d be fun to get little kisses all over my favourite museum. So! For this date idea, you’re gonna write a list of the top 5 (or 10, or 20, depending on your ambitions) romantic locations in your local area, and take your lover on a little tour. Kiss them on the bench at the top of the hill while the sun sets. In front of the fountain outside the town hall. On the deck of the riverboat which sells those lovely cocktails. In the locations of your first three dates.
Cute! Romantic! Horny!
Orgasm without moving
Challenge your partner to come without moving a muscle: this is basically a double-challenge because they have to stay still (and use their words/noises to guide you), and you have to really pay attention to every twitch of their body and moan in their throat. If you want some sex toys to really power this up, I recommend:
The Hot Octopuss PULSE for dicks (an oscillating penis vibrator that can have some extremely spunk-milking results) or if they’re not a ‘vibrations’ kinda person try a stroker like the Tenga AirTech (which I LOVE). Use code GOTN10 for that to get 10% off.
For clits/cunts, I’m gonna pick another Hot Octopuss one – the Pulse Queen which oscillates much like the dick toy above, but as a wand that gives really decent, targeted clit-stim. Or for internal g-spot stim, the Pillow Talk Sassy is fucking glorious. GOTN10 for 10% off the latter.
Taste test
What’s your person’s favourite food or drink? Gin? Belgian chocolate? Supermarket mini pork pies? OK, you’re gonna go out and buy a selection of varieties of this Favourite Thing. Then, when they come round to yours, stick on a cool playlist, offer them a blindfold and give them the chance to rate each Delicious Thing. This can be as cheap (which is the best flavour of gummy bear) or expensive (best high-end red wine) as your date’s taste, and it also gives them the chance to share their opinions on something they really love.
Hunt for a brand new kink
Sex is a fun hobby, and just as with your other shared hobbies (cooking, hiking, DIY) hopefully you and your partners will be open to expanding your repertoire (new recipes, routes, projects). So if you and your partner are game, have a little competition to see which of you can find the best new kink. Something you’ve not tried before but that nevertheless presses buttons inside your head and your crotch that you’d quite like to press a little further. Give yourselves a time limit (10 minutes? 30 minutes? Longer? Depends on the mood) and go to separate rooms to peruse the internet for filth that aligns with your interests, then follow a few rabbit holes till you find some that awakens something within you. Then come back together and share your findings – like a sexy show-and-tell.
Have a browse through Literotica – there is a vast bank of written erotica that covers a whole host of different kinks and tones. Their Valentine’s Day annual story contest might be a good place to start. I think this challenge becomes even more fun if you both begin from the same place, so you can see how much (or how little!) your journeys diverge from the same start point.
Matching stripes
This one’s for the switches amongst you (I do NOT write enough porn about switching, imo – should definitely rectify that but I published a little switchy flash fiction piece on Patreon recently if you want to check it out). How about taking it in turns to mark each other, but with marks that match as close as possible to the ones the other person has given you. Take a whip, cane, crop or whatever your favourite implement is, then switch in and out of dominance/submission to see if you can give the other person the same strokes they’ve just used on you. Maybe take some naked pictures the morning after, to see how close you each got to your target…
Recommendations will depend on your pain tolerance and implement preferences, but here’s a short whip I really like the look of from Meo (and not just because of the hot tattooed man who’s modelling it). Likewise this red riding crop is stunning (and it’s nice to see some colours other than ‘black’ in the kink equipment mix). And if you and your partner are pain sluts/absolute bastards, you may want to have a look at this aluminium cane. I am too much of a wuss, but YMMV. Voucher code for Meo is NEWYEAR2025 (20% off, valid till end of February).
Create a make-out playlist
Start a playlist, and take it in turns adding songs that you really want to make out to. One song each, pass the phone (or remote) until you have enough to last you a decent session. Then lie on the sofa, or retire to the bedroom, and snog each other (touch each other, fuck, whatever you like) with as much earnestness and passion as individual songs dictate.
Orgasm without making any noise
Another silly/fun sex challenge, the aim is to make your partner come without making a single sound. Honestly, a pretty difficult challenge here for some of us – I find it basically impossible to keep quiet, not merely because I like to make it clear when I am coming, but also because I think it’s practically impossible to make someone orgasm with no feedback. However, silence doesn’t have to mean lack of communication: if your partner is going at you with a clit vibe, or doing a glorious grinding fuck on you with a vibrating cock ring, you can always grip their hair, bite their shoulder, clench your legs around them to let them know they’re on the right track. The challenge is silent, but silence does not have to mean a lack of comms…
Recommendations: if your partner needs clit stim, you might want to use an awesome vibe like the Doxy bullet (my favourite for partnered fucking), or for a grinding fuck perhaps the Hot Octopuss Atom Plus (INCREDIBLE). If you don’t even want the sound of a toy to distract you, how about one of these Tenga textured pads? You can use them on any configuration of genitals to add a bit of extra stimulation to your stroke.
Go for a lovely walk (with or without a sexy addition)
Nothing to see here, just a really lovely little walk. Honestly, some of my favourite dates have essentially been lovely little walks – interspersed with cans in the park, a pint in a pub, a spliff or a snack or whatever. For those without money, it’s important to remember that free dates are always possible, and walking side-by-side can make it easier for shy people to open up in conversation (likewise long car journeys – something about the lack of eye contact, I think). So! Plan a lovely route, take your sweetheart on a lovely little walk, and ask them plenty of questions about their life, their feelings, their hopes, their dreams, and which animal they’d choose to have as a sidekick in their own comic book.
Recommendations if you want to make this sexy: BUTT PLUGS. To make this walk more interesting, one or both of you could pop in a weighted butt plug. The knowledge that someone has it in can be wildly hot, even if it does make your walk a little slower because you sometimes have to sit down to recover from the horn. This one from SexTech looks decent and is weighted so you can really feel it inside you when you’re walking around. Likewise this gorgeous metal one from Doxy which is (and will probably remain) my favourite butt plug of all time. Use GOTN15 for 15% off the latter.
If you’re feeling bolder (and your walk is in a remote location where you won’t get caught doing this) you could try a wearable panty vibe rather than a butt plug. One of you sticks this in your pants, the other holds the remote. This will definitely slow you down, but in a good way.
Fuck along to audio
Why not create a playlist of audio porn and try to fuck along to that? I’d recommend starting with something sensual and slow, like Sherryl’s ‘massage you‘, or maybe this gorgeous piece by The Big Gay Review about watching someone touch their cock. Or perhaps you want to fuck along with this piece I wrote about getting someone to give me the first stroke reeeeeally slooooowly. Or perhaps this piece by JM Seaborn about a kinky inspection? I’ve fucked along with visual porn before, and it was intensely fun – I think audio can do something similar if you use it right, with the added bonus that you don’t have to crane your neck to look at a screen.
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Plan a trip
This idea is completely free, if you want it to be. Roll a six-sided dice four times, then the resulting number (eg 4, 2, 6, 1 = 4261) is your budget (in pounds, dollars, etc) for a holiday. Sit with your partner and plan the ideal romantic getaway for the pair of you that costs as close to that number as possible. Location, transport, accommodation, activities, meals, any sex toys/clothes/books you want to bring along… Personally I think one of the most romantic things you can ever do is dream together – even if you can’t afford to make those dreams a reality, talking about them gives you the chance to learn more about what the other person loves, and connect over something fun and exciting.
Play dress-up
You don’t have to go to a dungeon to show off your sexiest outfit – some of the horniest times in my life have been spent with a man in the comfort of my own home, wearing a pair of fishnets that I have droolingly persuaded him to put on. Likewise silk shorts, jock straps, and other sexy delights. Obviously men have often persuaded me into something slutty too, for the joy of looking at me wearing it while we drink cocktails and/or watch porn and/or create make-out playlists. You don’t need an invite to an event – you create the event, with your attitude and your dressing up and your love of seeing a sexy person wearing whatever makes them feel hottest.
There are SO MANY possible suggestions here, but here are a few of my faves: this gorgeous leather jock from Meo, these gorgeous suspender tights from WhippleTickle (GOTN10 for 10% off), whatever-the-fuck this amazing bondage set is from WhippleTickle, and this hot red harness from Meo too. Drool. Voucher code for Meo is NEWYEAR2025 (20% off, valid till end of February). For WhippleTickle it’s GOTN10 (10% off, no expiry)
Little joys bucket list
What tiny little joys could you tick off your bucket list with the help of your partner? Write down a bunch of them, and encourage your partner to do the same. I’m thinking things like ‘slow dance to this specific song’ or ‘have them tilt my chin up and then kiss me romantically like in a movie’ or ‘feed me grapes’ or ‘worship my nipples’. Each of you grab ten scraps of paper, write down some silly, easily-achievable things, then light a bunch of candles and take it in turns to pull suggestions from the jar.
If you want some inspiration for this, WhippleTickle sells a ‘creative kisses’ card game (GOTN10 for 10% off) which has a huge selection of lots of different types of kisses. I wouldn’t normally recommend shop-bought sex games because they feel a bit cheesy, but I think I have to start accepting that not everyone is as brilliant as I am at coming up with creative ideas to build connection. It’s fine. You lot mostly have real jobs and kids and other stuff going on in your lives, we can’t all be professional horny wankers. Anyway. I reckon something like this is a great way to kick off inspiration if you’re struggling to come up with ideas. And if you think any of the ideas are silly, you can giggle over them together before gently brushing your partner’s cheek and stopping their laughter with a romantic smooch.
BONUS: 13 more free/cheap/cute/sexy date ideas
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And if this doesn’t seem like enough value for money, here are another dozen silly little date ideas:
- swap clothes for a fuck and role-play each other
- challenge yourselves to spend an entire evening communicating entirely without words
- do a mini pub crawl and rate all the pubs in your area
- each write a ten-question quiz about yourself and see how many your partner can get right
- put on your favourite song to make out to then kiss up their body from their toes to their lips over the course of the entire song
- plan your dream festival (bands, comedians, dance groups, theatre shows – whatever you’d enjoy seeing)
- find a recipe for that dish you loved on holiday and cook it together
- make a time capsule to open on next year’s Valentine’s Day
- give yourself a 20 minute deadline to make lists of the things you love/fancy/enjoy about the other person then read your lists to each other
- do a culture-swap where you each pick your favourite episode of a TV show your partner hasn’t seen and take it in turns to watch and discuss
- have a sex toy spring clean where you go through your kit and rate/review it (ditch the stuff you never use, play with the top 3)
- stick a pin in a map of your nearest city, and go explore every single interesting thing you can find within that map square
- finalise your top 10 celebrity threesome wishlist