Some questions are designed to elicit sexy answers, and others invoke a sense of wariness and dread. “Do you like spanking?” falls into the latter category, and here’s why:
‘Spanking’ encompasses a range of things – you can be spanked by someone who is giggling and brandishing a pink heart-shaped toy from Anne Summers. You can be spanked by a teacher, parent, boyfriend, girlfriend, or midget in a gimp suit. You can be spanked until it just about hurts or you can be spanked until the agony is so much that you want to bite straight through the pillow and into your bottom lip.
You can be spanked by someone who can’t get hard unless he knows you’re uncomfortable – who digs his fingers into the back of your neck and forces you over his knee, yanks your knickers down and rubs his cock into you while he whacks you. You can be spanked by someone who’s afraid that if he gives you more than a light-hearted slap you’ll report him to the authorities.
So the question ‘do you like being spanked?’ is about as relevant as ‘do you like food?’
Like ‘food’, I think everyone likes spanking. Be it a gentle tap on the bum to demonstrate ownership or so they can see your butt jiggle as they’re fucking you from behind, right up to a full-on gutwrenching spitefuck accompanied by slaps so hard they give you stars behind the eyes.
The question might open things up for more discussion and more extravagant play, but I’m always wary of giving a fully honest answer. Yes, of course I like spanking. But I’m loathed to tell you how I like it in case you spend the next five fucks trying to get the tone, the rhythm and the strength to my exact specifications.
So I think what I’m proposing is that we come up with a Universal Spanking Declaration, along the lines of:
“I like being spanked in some way, shape or form.”
That way we can assume everyone likes a bit, and push things gradually until we reach the point at which they say “oh fuck yes, that’s it.” After all, that’s basically what we do with sex itself, right? No one says “once my penis is inside you, do you want me to maintain a fairly steady, slow rhythm, or would you prefer me to tease you a bit then go at it hammer and tongs until you come all over my cock?”
No. With sex we play jazz. Because we assume everyone likes it we expend our energies working out how they like it best.
From now on, if you sign up to my Universal Spanking Declaration, I shall do the same. I know you like it, I just need to find out how; I’m going to play jazz.
Now bend the fuck over.
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I like the USD very much. I think you have hit on a worthwhile truth and a vast simplification of human relations.
Or at least, I WOULD, if it wasn’t for the depths of nameless horror that have been revealed to me in the eyes of certain parties when I’ve dropped that topic, ever so casually, into the conversation….
All I have to say is “Yes, please”. Unfortunately I don’t get enough of it. I’m thinking he isn’t into it. Which is a real bummer :/
I’m not really a fan of spanking (of pain in general), but if s\he’s into it or it seems right at the time I’ll cope, sometimes even enjoy a very small amount.
Having said this, I’m very used to being the weird one and I’m betting most do like it ;)
I like to be be spanked hard. I mean something just goes stirs up through me to want and will myself to want it hard enough to until I am crying. I mean bawling and getting that carthatic release. So I like to be “spanked until the agony is so much that you want to bite straight through the pillow and into your bottom lip.” The thing is I have a very high pain tolerance. There is just something inside me that gets turned on by giving up control and get really a real blistering. Last time my boyfriend paddle me the flat part of the handle of bamboo backsctratcher he got from the dollar store. It was thudy like a paddle but I mean it stung like all get out and light enough that he was able to really whale hard and fast for a really long time bare ass without bruises. I got welts all over but after a very long flurry set until I I was hiccup crying, it was such a release and creates bonding with him as I cried it all out. I am just weird I guess. Anyone one else likes really hard spankings like I do?
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Punishment Spanking Succession Form
Fill out and sign prior to meeting and must have proof that you are 18 years of age or older with ___________ and I am consenting to this of my own free will _____ (initials)
The disciplinarian will comfort, hold and console the me after the punishment is over. I acknowledged that the disciplinarian will not in any way attempt to take advantage of, touch or try anything sexual towards me _____ (initials).
This will be an absolute real punishment spanking secession.
I _____________ (print full name) understand that all punishment spanking succession will consist of 3 separate spankings, strapped with something leather, a paddling with flat hard surface implement and a final corporal disciple spanking with a cane, tree switch or mini blind wand. I ___________ (print full name) understand and release my disciplinarian _____________ (print full name) from his responsibly for any and all marks, welts and bruises on my backside that will result from being spanked, from the top of my bottom below my tail bone to the middle of my thighs, during the punishment disciple secession. I accept that I will have welts, bruises and marks for days ________ (initials).
All punishment spanking will have two elements: the corporal disciple spankings and an element of embarrassment.
Corporal Disciple Spanking
I understand and accept that I will have no safe word to stop the spankings, once the spankings starts ______ (initials).
I understand and accept that there will be no warm up spanking with the hand, it will began hard, consecutively (intensity at the discretion of my disciplinarian) with a implement ________ (initials).
I understand and accept that all spankings will be administered on the bare skin _________ (initials).
I understand and accept that there will be no time limitation as to the length of each spanking, no matter how hard I am crying _________ (initials).
I understand and accept that there will be no limitation to the number of swats I will receive in the spankings, no matter how hard I am crying ________ (initials).
Element of Embarrassment
You must choose at least three of the following, put a “X” in front of following sections.
___ completely bare from the waist to knees or ankles and shuffling across the room carrying implement with you.
___ completely naked for the entire secession.
___ intentionally do a post spanking dance performance for 30 seconds or more after each spanking (stiffening up, pushing hips pushed forwards, rubbing bare ass with both hands and hoping up and down).
___ standing in the corner (forehead against the wall) for 1 full hour before each spankings with next implement in both hands, fully clothed unless completely naked was selected.
___ suppository inserted all the way in as safely as possible just before the last spanking, unless enema is selected. Rubber glove will be used.
___ enema given after last spanking unless suppository is selected.
___ the spankings are to be watched by an unknown person.
___ Disciplinarian discretion.
First Spanking: Strapping
Strapping with something leather. Choose from the following. There is no minimum number of whacks and no maximum. Put a “X” in front of sections.
___ Western leather belt with imprints on it, nothing medal.
___ Thin office belt.
___ Belt of you bring.
___ Belt your choice from assorted collection.
___ Disciplinarian discretion.
Position, choose 1 or more. Put a “X” in from of the selections.
___ Over the knee/lap.
___ Over the end of a couch.
___ Over the knee and end couch
___ Over the back of the couch.
___ Diaper: on your back, feet up straight
___ Disciplinarian discretion.
___ Other _____________
Second Spanking: Paddling
Paddled with a hard flat surface implement. All paddings with be over the knee or lap. The most lengthily of the 3 spanking. There is a minimum of 100 smacks with no maximum. Paddling will be very intense (hard and fast) from the very beginning until it stops. Choose from the following. Put an “X” on the selection.
___ Fraternity Paddle
___ Lexicon Paddle
___ Thin flat part of handle of a bamboo backscratcher.
___ Hairbrush
___ Bath brush
___ Bring your own implement
___ Disciplinarian discretion.
The Third and Final Spanking
The final spanking is with long thin round implement. There is no minimum and no maximum number of swats. It will start slow and end in a long flurry of rapid fire blows. Choose from the following. Put a “X” on the sections.
___ Mini blinding wand.
___ Cane
___ Tree Switch
Restraints
Unless requested to bind hands together for the last one, there will no restraints. Disciplinarian may hold arm and hand the middle of the back and scissor lock legs. The disciplinarian expects you to accept and expect it will be unbearable and take disciple willingly. If there is an excessive reaching, the disciplinarian has a responsibility to make it safe from hands being hit and bind them together at his discretion. There will be absolutely no restraining you in place.
I ______________ (print name) willing on my own violation accept and agree to the terms laid out above and accept the proceeding punishment secession accordingly.
Signatures
Person being Disciplined
____________________
Disciplinarian
____________________
What’s this? I don’t get it.
What would you pick if you had to fill out the form?
I’d pick ‘discussing this shit is WAY more fun than filling out a form’
I don’t want to be rude, but seriously this form gives me scary shivers, not sexy ones
I don’t. I genuinely, truly, really don’t like spanking. I don’t MIND an affectionate pat on my clothed arse, I might find it funny fun on occasion, but anything beyond that is no more than tolerable, while being patted, slapped, smacked or spanked on bare skin tends from turn off to a hard limit. It might sound totally hypocritical because I LOVE slapping, smacking and spanking my partners, and if being allowed to spank them would be conditional on taking some myself I’d probably trade. But I’d rather not.
I get so turned on giving my girlfriend all kinds of spankings, from erotic to just because spanking and even real ones that make her loss her composure, cry and sob. I see it as a gift of submission she gives me. Fortunately, I have a girlfriend who likes it also. She actually turned me on to it and brought out the spanko in me. Is it wrong to admit that I enjoy it? I get so turned on as I watch take her pants down knowing that she has given me full permission to spank her or sometime give her a real one. I have conflicting emotions inside. I don’t like woman who are abused but I like spanking my girlfriend now. Its like is a psychological afrodeysic to me. I love the control aspect, its like asking me to discipline her is the ultimate sign of respect and I feel honored she choose me to have that authority. The actual spanking is exciting to me also. I mean when I turn her over my knee and it completely consensual I feel so stimulated by the whole experience. Seeing her beautiful bare bottom in front of me knowing she expecting me to spank her and sometimes until she is crying hysterically is huge rush. Is it wrong to feel good about having that authority and power she gave me. I also really get turned on when I start to spank her usually start out with my hand to start with. I am so stimulated when I see her clench up tight and I see all the muscular definition of her butt cheecks. It is electifying for me to hear her react and I feel compelled to smack harder and faster. To see her feet fluttering and her ass cheecks are turning red to bright red, its like I go into a trance in my mind. The longer the spanking goes on the more I get turned on and I am not sure if I should feel guilty of that or not? I have never seen her do the post spanking hop I heard some described but I might bring that up to my Jill. I usually use my belt over my knee for discipline and I feel the powerful sense of power and authority as I began removing it and I feel extremely respected by Jill as she begins dropping her pants when I order her too. Is something wrong with me, that after experienced spanking someone that I discovered that I really like it myself?
Here my attempt to write a story. You are welocome copy and repost it here. There maybe some gammer errors but let me know what you think. https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;topic=104201
“This form gives me scary shivers”. That is exactly how you should feel when faced with a release. It is permission given forever…….