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4 reasons I will instantly swipe left
I’m dating again. Not with great gusto so far, and my most promising dating opportunities are ones that sit outside the swipe-focused stuff anyway. But I am having a go with a few different dating apps to see if there are any that don’t make me want to chuck my phone in the Thames. This time, I’m giving myself side quests to try and avoid the malaise that characterised my last go on this merry-go-round. The problem isn’t always down to other users, to be honest, although inevitably it’s annoying to be greeted with a bunch of likes and messages from guys who have clearly not looked at a single word of my profile, seeing only my pictures and thinking ‘eh, she’ll do‘ then firing off a lazy-ass ‘hey.’ The bigger problem these days is the rampant capitalist hellscape of apps that tempt you in with the promise of connection then demand you open your wallet if you want to actually talk. But still. We’re doing this. And part of ‘doing this’ in a way that makes it fun means allowing myself to write about the experience. That way, when aspects of the dating journey annoy me, rather than curl up and weep in a corner I can roll my eyes and remind myself that at least it’ll make good content. So. Here goes: four reasons I will instantly swipe left.
Note, as always, that like most of my other dating advice articles, this one is tediously straight.
Guest blog: Why I write porn for my wife
When you’re in a relationship with someone, treating sex as a hobby that you enjoy together is a fabulous way to maintain connection and keep things interesting – I believe this very strongly and I know I bang on about it a lot here. Rarely do I get such a perfect, horny, beautiful example of this than in today’s amazing guest blog, though. When the writer first messaged me to tell me he writes porn for an enthusiastic audience of one, I nearly fell off my chair with excitement before immediately asking him to send me a guest blog about it. Please welcome today’s anonymous writer, who is here to tell you about the joy and satisfaction of writing porn for his wife.
How to be difficult
Earlier this week I wrote a post about the Cornell rapes – about how awkward it can be to speak up against rape culture, and why it’s so important that men try to do it anyway. I’d love you guys to understand that being a ‘good guy’ doesn’t usually mean saying the right thing and then getting praise, but saying the difficult thing that prompts an uncomfortable silence. It isn’t easy to be difficult, but if you want to step up to the plate, here are some tips.
Guest blog: The totalising fuck
I know it’s a cliche when people share a post and just say ‘THIS’, but holy shit – THIS. When @thatdocphoenix sent this guest blog over to me it fully took my breath away. The totalising fuck that he describes in this piece is what sex is, to me. What sex is about, what it’s for, and why we do it. This. A million times, THIS.
Guest blog: Newly becunted – sex and healing after vaginoplasty
I love guest posts about people’s relationships to their bodies, especially when those bodies are changing and there’s this burst of new discovery. Even better when those discoveries are hot and full of joy. So I’m especially delighted to welcome this week’s guest blogger – she’s here to share a gorgeous story that combines exquisite sexiness with some fabulously thoughtful introspection about healing after vaginoplasty.